Don’t start by calling me a hater on romance. I’m romance’s biggest fan! I strongly believe that romance should be a daily part of who you are in your relationship with a significant other. It is for this reason that I’m not a fan of Valentine’s Day. The inherent problem I have is twofold:
1) The fact that Valentine’s Day is glorified as the day of romance, the one major time in the year (other than a birthday or anniversary) where you are required to do something special, AND
2) Valentine’s Day excludes the many millions of single people out there! What, are they not deserving of romance or love? Frankly, who wants to see “luvvy duvvy” people running around while you’re SINGLE?
Let’s see Valentine’s Day for what it really is: a capitalist driven machine invented for people to spend spend spend. Suddenly, everything is 3 times the regular price as Valentine’s Day approaches. I’ve said it for years and I’ll say it again:
If you’re not loving your significant other on a daily basis, do you REALLY think Valentine’s Day is going to make a difference? If you have no sense of gratitude for that person being a part of your life, one day will not change that sentiment. We are missing the bigger point.
Now let’s talk about being single on Valentine’s Day. It sucks. Let’s just call it what it is. Walking around in the street, you see couples arm in arm, doing the kissy face thing; it is a little depressing, no? We all long to spend time with another person, to share our lives and create a deeper relationship. In a time where it seems like all the good men are either taken (married, shacked up or whatever) OR swimming in cynicism (thanks to trifling heifers that make it harder for good women), it’s a tough pill to swallow. You want to be in that kind of relationship — hell, I want to be like that!
So I hereby pledge to be a permanent part of the Anti-Valentine’s Day Club. I will not subscribe to the consumerism involved with the day in any way, shape or form. It will be just another day: February 14th. If I have a significant other at the time, we will not observe the holiday. Our relationship will be one of ongoing mutual respect, giving and loving, not influenced by the dictates of society (i.e., buy me $100 roses -_-). If I am single, I will not observe the holiday from the other end of the spectrum. My search for someone that is worthy of me does not stop on February 14th and I will not be suckered into hating on those in loving relationships because of the day. That’s hypocritical — don’t front. You know that’s what you want too. I don’t think anyone truly hates love… even after a rough breakup.
Who’s with me?